I have always held the 7th day in high regard. In my opinion it’s the ultimate symbol of completion intertwined with renewal. I tend to think of it as a welcoming for what lies ahead. It’s the reason I insist that each Sunday be free of worry, self-doubt, disappointment and most importantly sucka’s! It really is that serious.
By curating every Sunday with the above tenets in mind, I have inadvertently allowed myself to manifest self-care practices that I might not otherwise think to address. Not for lack of trying, but being mindful 24/7, can get exhaustive. But, as good old Dr. Leo Marvin say’s, everything can be accomplished with baby steps.*
Let me give you an example of what I mean by this. When I first started on this journey, I knew I wanted Sunday to be my sacred day. But its one thing to say this and quite another to put it into practice. For instance, how would people react to my not making myself available to just any old damn thing? Well, like most things if you announce, share, shout or tell it like it is enough times, folks tend to get the point.
For me that meant using the term Sucka Free Sunday as often as possible and phrasing things in such a way that those closet to me started to get the picture. I even went so far as to place a plaque on my front door every Sunday morning that announced it’s arrival, just in case someone wanted to challenge my mental wellness that day, they knew what time it was.
It works about 90% of the time these days. I was at 100% for a while, but folks be sneaking in under the radar sometimes, I adjust accordingly though and move on.
There’s all kinds of ways to incorporate a Sucka Free lifestyle. Rock clothing, posts signs, take photo’s of yourself sans any sucka’s and then share them on the SFS Facebook page and inspire others. Just look at all these fine examples before you!
I say all this to give you some hope and suggest that you too can curate one day for yourself. If you’ve never given it much thought, or you feel like it’s unattainable, I urge you to just give it a try. I’m not about to lie to you, it’s not easy, but a good approach is to start with an hour a week, then half a day and so on. It might take a week, a few months or even years, but trust me when I say there is value in the entire process. You deserve it, you’re worth it, now go head on and claim it.
* I have a strange affection for the film “What About Bob?” props if you feel me though.
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